Thursday, January 20, 2005

people pleasing

So, how do you stop being a people pleaser? I desperately don't want to be that but every time I find out I stepped on someone's toes or assumed something I shouldn't have or just made a simple mistake I go into a tailspin of berating myself for my stupidity. If I could change something about me, I think that would be it!

1 comment:

Sonya said...

I can relate! With the people-pleasing and the berating and the tailspins. Sometime with different causes, but often with similar results. One thing I've realized is that when I get into those really off-balance moments it's a big signal that I'm not functioning in the Holy Spirit's truth or control. I'm usually trying to control someone else, rescue someone, or take responsibility for someone else's feelings. All burdens I'm not called to carry.

Then I need to stop, figure out what my responsibility is in the situation, let go of rest (including the outcome) and ask for wisdom and courage to do what I need to do.

Having said this, I think I should copy and paste it onto my fridge or somewhere I can see it, because it's definitely not second nature. Love you!